Happy Friday Friends!
I wanted to do a post that, like most, is near and dear to my heart. I am not saying this “just because”, but like many women, we are often told “You can’t wear that!”
This dress is the perfect example of an outfit in which I was told I was too fat to wear it. One day, I showed a few friends and co-workers a dress I was interesting in wearing. I got a lot of “Girl, your thighs will be all out” or “Your Fupa will need double coverage” or my favorite, “You aren’t curvy enough for it!” Before I showed them the “plus size version of the dress, I showed them the dress on a straight sized model.
She’s gorgeous right? Well I said to myself, I can look just as fly! A few said, “Ok” and others said “Only you can do it Chardline.” So without hesitation, I spoke to the great team down at Pink Clubwear and they said, “It’ll be out the first thing in the AM.”
Once I received this dress, I was a bit nervous because I already publicly proclaimed that I would be rocking this dress. But once I put it on, those nerves washed away and I was ready to play!
Standing at 5’8 , size of 20/22, and 306 lbs, I ROCKED THE ISH OUT OF MY DRESS!!! I can’t believe that people were trying to come for my sexiness! I ladies, you don’t have to be a size 4 to take pride in how beautiful you look in clothes. Ask Bustle, their number one rule to combating Body Shamers is Dress For Yourself, Not Your Body. Everyone has an opinion, but remember that your’s is the most important!
The second most important part of combating the body shamers is Deliberately Show Skin! And you don’t have to tell me twice!!
Another rule is “Break The Rules With No Shame” and this is my trait by day and night! Rules are made to be broken! If t I wasn’t supposed to wear this dress, than why did they make it? Lol
The last pillar of the Bustle’s list I want to harp on is “Post Photos Of Your Outfits Online”. As a blogger, I am used to hearing and getting a lot of shade for my choice of clothing and after your 10th one, you stop reacting. You really have to hone in on that dope curvy lady on the inside and “do you”. I post a lot pictures and body positive messages on my personal and public social media accounts because this is who I am…THROUGH AND THROUGH. Now is this outfit work appropriate? NO lol! But that won’t stop me from verbally speaking out against side ways or hateful comments I hear in and out of the work space!
Til’ next time, Stay FAB!