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In Body Positive, Fashion, Inspiration, Personal Style, Uncategorized

 

Initially, I wanted to entitle this post: 29 things I learned last year. But to be honest, it wasn’t in my heart. This past weekend, I had the privilege of spending my birthday with my closest friends and family. I don’t think ANYONE knows me better than this bunch of people. Well, except my mom.

My brother and sister know me the best. For the most part, they see me through and through. They peep my evolution from time to time, but at my core, they know what I am thinking.

Nyviana is like my sister…she’s is my sister. I met her through my friend Tremana, and I don’t regret it not one bit. We travel together, cry together, and everything in between. When I say something “CRAZY,” she gets me more than anyone…she actually laughs and gives me an HI 5. There’s something so comforting about those hi-5’s. We come from two different walks of life, but when our paths crossed, it was like we knew each other forever.

Durand I’ve known the longest in this crew. We met each other during our freshman year of college. At first, he was timid, but I knew there was more to Durand to that. He is VERY observant, tactical, and practical. He makes the best predictions about. In fact, CHARDLINE.COM wouldn’t exist without him. Durand saw something in me, purchased the domain and website, and I ran with it. I honor our friendship like it’s my baby. I think I should listen to him more; he seems to know what’s up!

Tasha, I met less than four years ago. She’s a rock. She super fierce, confident, always down for the cause, her smile is infectious, and she’s HELLA smart!! Like MAAAAD SMART! She’s one of the most driven women I know and doesn’t take no for an answer! I love her to death because she isn’t one of those friends who require all the attention in the world…she just needs a person to be present at the moment! This weekend was a weekend of firsts for her!!

Lastly, OJ. If you follow my Instagram Stories of Snapchat, OJ is my best friend. I’ve known him since 2012, and he started off as my trainer. Over the years, we’ve bonded…mostly over food…I think we eat more than we speak. And recently, we’ve started traveling together. So far we’ve been to Philly, NY, LA, Toronto, and ATL together. I always feel like there’s more to us than food, but food is always a good start when it comes to OJ. Fun fact, he’s the only man that has said “I LOVE YOU” to me and I actually believe it. It only took 29 years, huh?

During this trip, I don’t know if they noticed, but I did ask a few questions to them. I posed the questions at random times so it wouldn’t sound too interrogatory. I am not sure if they actually read my blog, but if you ever do, I want to say thank you because you revealed some things about myself that I’m always afraid to explore. Character traits that I often ignore.

The first question I asked, “What was your fondest childhood memory?” While my friends said things like staying at my grandmother’s house or riding a bike, I remember not having many childhood memories. I remember my sister drowning in the pool at Canobie Lake; I remember having a cousin that didn’t act like a cousin…sorta creepy….I remember being called a whale while I was sleeping…and then variations of “fat” thereon. My positive memories seemed to have diminished and I all I could remember were times where I was hurt or scared.  But my friend’s memories taught me that it wasn’t too late to make new and fun ones now. The past already happened and I can’t control that. But this past weekend, I made some great memories. I only want to keep making them from here on out.

The second question I asked…OJ in particular because he knows me the best: what do you think my ego is? My brother just finished explaining what his definition of ego was. He said that an ego is what you project out to the world, but it’s not necessarily the reality you’re living. At first, OJ was reticent to answering the question…he was trying to vibe out. But after that, he said, “You portray an aura of being confident when in reality you are your harshest critic.” God must have blessed his tongue because this is something I realized about myself, I just didn’t know that someone else could see it, too. So what happens now? I live unapologetically. I have to figure out why I critique myself the way I do. Am I fair to myself? Am I practicing what I preach? Am I doing this for the show? Something to consider.

This post is almost 1000 words long, so I won’t bore you but just know part two is coming lol. It always does! But I won’t leave without sharing some good news! Before the new year takes off, I want to introduce three new parts coming to the blog:

  • #BostonProper – This is when I will dish on all things Boston. Boston influencer events, eats, events, brunches, staycations, gyms, spa, hair, YOU NAME IT! This is my city! I work, live, eat, breathe and sleep all things Boston (and Haiti). I can’t wait for you to experience Boston through my lens! After my feature on Chronicle 5, I’ve been invited to so many Boston based storefronts, events, spas etc! I have to share my city with you!
  • Dear Diary: While I speak my thoughts on my posts all the time, I think it’s time I keep those feelings in one space for you all to take a look at. Before blogging, I was a writer. I could write about anything and anyone. I’m hoping that this diary section of the blog will help you see me in a light that is more TRUE to my nature. I am working on Chardline the Blogger and Chardline, the Woman, being one. I can’t wait to hear your feedback on me…being me :).
  • Monthly Lookbook– Once a month, I am hoping to collaborate with one brand to show you themed looks for the month. Before the end of this month, you will see a lookbook from Debs Shops! Today’s look was gifted by Debs Shops so make sure you get it while it’s still here.

A huge thank you to Debs Shop for the look, and an even huger thank you to Distorted Concepts for the shots! He’s EFFIN AMAZING!

 

International Day of the Girl Child

In Body Positive, Inspiration, Lifestyle

According to Unicef,  since 2012, 11 October has been marked as the International Day of the Girl. The day aims to highlight and address the needs and challenges girls face, while promoting girls’ empowerment and the fulfillment of their human rights.

I am not one to cast a shadow on challenges of others…if you believe you are going through a problem, you, my friend are going through it. When people would say “I wish I were rich, I wouldn’t be going through this problem,” I often argue that wealthy people have a whole other set of issues that money can’t resolve. Unfortunately, as women in a 90% patriarchal world, we collectively go through a lot of the same issues.

Unequal pay, telling women they are playing “victim” when they go through rape, national leaders telling us what to do with our sexual organs (even condoning mutilation), fat shaming, barring access to education and driving, and the list goes on an on. And as much as I wish we were living through lines of Tupac’s “Dear Mama” song, we’re not.

I don’t advocate to be a feminist, but I do advocate for our human rights! I believe that we deserve to treat each other with the utmost understanding and respect. And even if it’s too late to do it now, we gotta start with youth…we shouldn’t have to condition young girls and women into believing that this is all society has to offer them. At the bare minimum, OUR HUMAN RIGHTS!

Adolescent girls have the right to a safe, educated, and healthy life, not only during these critical formative years, but also as they mature into women. If efficiently supported during the adolescent years, girls have the potential to change the world – both as the empowered girls of today and as tomorrow’s workers, mothers, entrepreneurs, mentors, household heads, and political leaders. An investment in realizing the power of adolescent girls upholds their rights today and promises a more equitable and prosperous future, one in which half of humanity is an equal partner in solving the problems of climate change, political conflict, economic growth, disease prevention, and global sustainability. – Unicef.

So please, if you see a little girl today–even if it’s for three seconds, let them know they are appreciated and that they can put anything they set their mind to! When I was younger, images of women running shit were far and few. I wish I could have told myself that the buck doesn’t stop with what “they” tell you to do…keep pushing sis.

Char.

 

15 days of TRILLFIT

In Body Positive, Fitness & Health

I know it’s been an entire month since I’ve written on here. And even though I’ve been low-key on the social front, I’m trying to get it together. I am a point in my life where I am blessed with opportunity, but my energy, zest, and enthusiasm seem to be low. The last time I’ve felt energized and on my P’s and Q’s was when I was consistently active.

When I used to attend Zumba classes 3x times a week, my energy was through the roof. I loved it! Aside with the intended weight loss benefits, my dealing with stress became easier. I knew that problems wouldn’t go away immediately, but for those 60 mins, I was focusing on myself! Also, I would finally fall asleep as soon as I hit the bed—and all my close friends know that this NEVER HAPPENS ANYMORE. I trainer maybe 5 or 8 times a month with OJ of OjFit_ but I wanted to take it up a notch! So, I’ve decided to put myself back into consistent activity with TRILLFIT!

What is TRILLFIT?

TRILLFIT

As seen in the Boston Globe, InStyle, NBC, and much more, TRILLFIT is Boston’s original hip-hop workout party. They believe that fitness should be fun, inclusive, and set to the illest soundtrack. Any class that endorses twerking is a class you should try! I’ve been to a couple of classes in the past when I’ve had time, and they were AMAZEBALLS! 

The classes they currently have are:

Sculpt- Our signature strength training class focuses on tightening and toning the whole body with an emphasis on booty work. Fusing elements of HIIT, core work, Pilates, and body weight exercises targeted towards arms, abs, legs, thighs, and butt, Sculpt will have you feeling the burn and looking back at it all damn day. We promise. Bring your own mat. All levels welcome.

TRILLFIT- Our signature dance class blends Beyonce-worthy choreography (we love a good twerk sesh) with multiple rounds of HIIT, to sweat your way to a tighter, toned body. Sneakers Required. All levels welcome

HIP HOP YOGA (my fave)- A slow flow vinyasa class that explores and deepens the connection between mind and body, while stretching and restoring the body from the inside out. Set to the sounds of DJ Nick Bishop spinning a live soundtrack of hip-hop and R&B, this class takes you deeper into your yoga practice with that same TRILLFIT spark. Be prepared to sweat and rejuvenate. Bring your own mat. All levels welcome.

…and more classes to come!

TRILLFIT

Check out this video of a Pop-up Class in LA. 

With that said, I am going to challenge myself to 15 days of TRILLFIT! Even though their classes conflict with my school classes, I am going to push myself to attend Trillfit between now and November 16th …at least 15 times! By doing this, I am hoping to regain that energy and zest for life again. I am also hoping to see these curves morph back into the old Chardline I once knew!

Want to join me? I am starting this Wednesday, and I really want you there! The first two people to email me ([email protected]) get to take one class ON ME!!! That’s right, if you’re in the Boston area, please come and get this work!!! Also, want to watch a few snippets from class during my 15 days of TRILLFIT? Make sure you head to my fitness IG account where I will introduce the magic that is TRILLFIT! I am going to post some progress pics along the way…so make sure you follow :).

Can’t wait to get this body moving! Head to TRILLFIT to sign up!! 

Til next time, Char.

Turning a New Leaf feat. Teri Jon

In Body Positive, Fashion, Personal Style

At 28 years old, I feel like I’ve experienced more than I needed to. I’ve had like five near death experiences; I’ve had to make tough decisions that I wake up regretting every day and to make matters worse, I keep finding myself in a lot of the same experiences. I think the greats call this insanity.

One of life’s most challenging aspects is understanding love + partnership with a significant other. I swear, in high school, it was so simple. Love meant holding hands, going to the movies, and the worst thing your significant other can do is cheat on you.

Plus Size Wedding Dress by Teri Jon

As I’m getting older, love is starting to mean tough conversations, holding your tongue for the sake of bruising your partner’s ego, understanding that there is a gray area that isn’t always the prettiest place to hang out in, realizing that sex more than a physical act–it’s 90% mental, knowing that honest and direct communication will make or break a relationship, etc.

Now, there are more nuances to love but–even then, I still welcome it with open arms. Why? Love has the power to transform and heal you. I once had a friend who said, “Sha, you are brave! You go into dating with the hopes of you establishing something long lasting. You don’t seem to be scared of externalities such as hurt, depression, weight fluctuation, internalized views about yourself and men in general, etc.” As endearing as his speculation about me was, he was kind of wrong. I’m terrified of love. It can be horrifying!

Plus Size Wedding Dress by Teri Jon

It’s 2017, and society still dictates where a person should be in their late twenties. If it were up to my family, I would have been married with two kids by now. But, by the grace of God, I’m not even close. Being married isn’t a life goal for me. Being happy and making others happy is a better fit for me. Does that mean I’m going to put a pause on love? NAH! I’m going to love harder than I’ve ever loved before. But not in search of the dream guy—in search of Chardline. I’ve been relationships that have changed me for the worst. I honestly lost more and more of myself with every relationship.

Plus Size Wedding Dress by Teri Jon

While this post is only PART ONE, I hope you guys follow me as I figure out what it means to take the time to and LOVE ME! FINALLY! I’ve identified six things that kept me from loving me. With each layer revealed, I am going to share some of the tips and revelations that led me to this impetus. I’m also low key excited that I’m going to partner with people who’ve watched me grow and break down for the past 10+ years. Visuals, Interviews, and Testimonies!

No fancy production here, but this project means more to me than you all know. And yes, we can talk about this dress! The reason why I had to roll out my “Turning a New Leaf” project with this dress by Teri Jon is that I am still a style blogger and partnering with brands who are turning new leaves of their own is especially near and dear to my heart! Teri Jon just rolled out their #JustMySize campaign. Check out their video to learn more about it.

Even though my dress is sold out, check out these Fall classics that I know you’ll see on the blog again!! I am wearing a size 20 if it helps for reference. Also, I found the same dress on Saks!

My shoes are from Amazon! 

Plus Size Wedding Dress by Teri Jon

Plus Size Wedding Dress by Teri Jon

Do me a favor? Hug yourself every night before you go to sleep. I promise it makes a world of a difference.

-Char.

Wearing my Awkward Crown

In Body Positive

Remember that time when being awkward was cool? It lasted a whole seven days; then people went back to following the “IT GIRL.” You see, I was always awkward. I have done a pretty good job at masking it, but from time to time you will catch me in my natural state.

Being awkward is more than responding to common situations weirdly, it is also stressing over the reason why others do not react the same way you do. Each of my friends will collectively say, “Chardline is so awkward, but I love her though.” Moreover, as I grew older, I realized that being awkward is not such a bad thing—it is a great thing. While everyone is crying at a scene from Titanic, I still find solace in knowing that if I were on that ship, I would not have to pay my student loans anymore–I would be at peace.

Does that mean I am savage? Nah, it just means that I process things differently. I am writing this post not only to show off my dope fedora from Kuronne, but to encourage everyone to be the best version of yourself. We live in a time where our quirks and personalities are not celebrated. In fact, we are invited to be more like sheep than a flock of diversity.

Some days I wish I were normal. Sometimes I think to myself, “If I were less awkward, I would finally get the guy.” Alternatively, my favorite, “If I were less awkward, I would be able to express myself better instead of joking about matters that were serious to me.” However, God made me this way for a reason, and I am gonna let it fly.

However, don’t get me wrong be awkward is probably what led me to all of my accomplishments today. Too many to name but one of my favorites is my relationship with my nephew. No one in the family understands why we are as close –and I think it’s because awkwardly, we understand each other. 20 years apart and he’s the only person I can connect with in my house.

So today, celebrate the things about yourself that you’ve been trying to hide. Learn to embrace those things about yourself, too. Issa Rae did it when she first wrote The Mis-Adventures of Awkward Black Girl, and now look where she is! AN AWKWARD BOSS! Jesse Eisenberg is my #MCE and I think it’s because he’s a pretty awkward guy himself.

See we are not all that strange!

Want to see how my homegirls expressed their Kuronne fedoras? Check out their Instagram pages. Bianca + Genevieve.

 

Which Kuronne hat best represents you?

Til next time, Char!