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Chardline and Orville Joseph for Rockland Trust

Relationships that Matter

In Fitness & Health, Inspiration, Uncategorized

This post is sponsored by Rockland Trust. But as always, my opinions are 1000% my own.


Chardline and Orville Joseph for Rockland Trust

As a part two to last week’s posts, I thought it would be fitting for me to open up about how much I value the relationships in my life. As humans, we form lots of relationships. Whether it is with school teachers, gym trainers, financial advisors, family, friends, etc., we place value in all of these relationships because we understand the trust and loyalty that binds us. One relationship that I love to brag about is with my trainer turned best friend, OJ.

 

OJ epitomizes the definition of a best friend. I do not know a single person who is more present in my life than he is…well after my mom of course. When I first started blogging, he supported my entrepreneurial endeavors. Even if he was the only man submerged in a sea of ladies at my events, he never complained. He merely observed and smiled. Apart from being physically being present in my life, he’s always been the perfect person to mentally balance me out. While I tend to be a paranoid or anxious person, he’s always there to remind me to calm down. And on the flip side, when I complained to him that I couldn’t climb to the top of a mountain, he was right there pushing me along the way…and this isn’t a figure of speech either. He actually helped me climb to the top of two mountains.

Our relationship isn’t complicated or knows many boundaries. I don’t think there’s anything I have a hard time telling him. Our trust and candid talks is what binds us closer. When others started to notice that I gained 100 pounds, they quietly said, “Chardline, you are getting bigger.” But when OJ noticed he said, “Alright when I’ve completed personal training school, I am going to design you a program to help you with your fitness goals…” He never attacks me or makes me feel like I am doing something wrong…unless it’s a roast session. That boy can roast!  Instead, he picks up on certain patterns and behaviors and asks how I am doing.

 

Chardline and Orville Joseph for Rockland Trust

I can go on and on about my relationship with OJ, but the truth is I am choking up over here. And OJ knows this. I always let him know when I appreciate his friendship. Whether it’s a simple “I love you” or saving him food, we celebrate our relationship in awesome ways! We’ve already traveled from coast to coast; I wonder where life will take us now.

Both OJ and I were discussing how it’s time “grown-up moves” in our lives. While we have our sights on starting our own families and buying homes, we recognized the importance of building relationships with people and institutions that will help us actualize these goals. Being Massachusetts natives, we started looking into Rockland Trust. When I learned about a bank that focuses its mantra on building meaningful relationships with their customers, it didn’t take much for me to want to learn more. Rockland Trust is a bank that offers a wide of banking, investment, and insurance services to people like me.

I never thought I would experience the day where I can compare one of my most meaningful relationships in my life to a bank that can help me actualize my short-term and long-term goals. I value the relationships in my life and I am happy to know that Rockland Trust does the same for its consumers. I’ve banked with other institutions but I’ve never experienced a bank that is committed to helping me be a better Chardline, just like OJ is.

Interested in learning about Rockland Trust? Head to Rockland Trust’s website, where you can learn more about their services and even the philanthropic work they do. Also, follow their Instagram and Facebook for interactive posts and updates.

Give OJ a big hug for me if you see him in the streets!

Til next time,

Char!

 

29

In Body Positive, Fashion, Inspiration, Personal Style, Uncategorized

 

Initially, I wanted to entitle this post: 29 things I learned last year. But to be honest, it wasn’t in my heart. This past weekend, I had the privilege of spending my birthday with my closest friends and family. I don’t think ANYONE knows me better than this bunch of people. Well, except my mom.

My brother and sister know me the best. For the most part, they see me through and through. They peep my evolution from time to time, but at my core, they know what I am thinking.

Nyviana is like my sister…she’s is my sister. I met her through my friend Tremana, and I don’t regret it not one bit. We travel together, cry together, and everything in between. When I say something “CRAZY,” she gets me more than anyone…she actually laughs and gives me an HI 5. There’s something so comforting about those hi-5’s. We come from two different walks of life, but when our paths crossed, it was like we knew each other forever.

Durand I’ve known the longest in this crew. We met each other during our freshman year of college. At first, he was timid, but I knew there was more to Durand to that. He is VERY observant, tactical, and practical. He makes the best predictions about. In fact, CHARDLINE.COM wouldn’t exist without him. Durand saw something in me, purchased the domain and website, and I ran with it. I honor our friendship like it’s my baby. I think I should listen to him more; he seems to know what’s up!

Tasha, I met less than four years ago. She’s a rock. She super fierce, confident, always down for the cause, her smile is infectious, and she’s HELLA smart!! Like MAAAAD SMART! She’s one of the most driven women I know and doesn’t take no for an answer! I love her to death because she isn’t one of those friends who require all the attention in the world…she just needs a person to be present at the moment! This weekend was a weekend of firsts for her!!

Lastly, OJ. If you follow my Instagram Stories of Snapchat, OJ is my best friend. I’ve known him since 2012, and he started off as my trainer. Over the years, we’ve bonded…mostly over food…I think we eat more than we speak. And recently, we’ve started traveling together. So far we’ve been to Philly, NY, LA, Toronto, and ATL together. I always feel like there’s more to us than food, but food is always a good start when it comes to OJ. Fun fact, he’s the only man that has said “I LOVE YOU” to me and I actually believe it. It only took 29 years, huh?

During this trip, I don’t know if they noticed, but I did ask a few questions to them. I posed the questions at random times so it wouldn’t sound too interrogatory. I am not sure if they actually read my blog, but if you ever do, I want to say thank you because you revealed some things about myself that I’m always afraid to explore. Character traits that I often ignore.

The first question I asked, “What was your fondest childhood memory?” While my friends said things like staying at my grandmother’s house or riding a bike, I remember not having many childhood memories. I remember my sister drowning in the pool at Canobie Lake; I remember having a cousin that didn’t act like a cousin…sorta creepy….I remember being called a whale while I was sleeping…and then variations of “fat” thereon. My positive memories seemed to have diminished and I all I could remember were times where I was hurt or scared.  But my friend’s memories taught me that it wasn’t too late to make new and fun ones now. The past already happened and I can’t control that. But this past weekend, I made some great memories. I only want to keep making them from here on out.

The second question I asked…OJ in particular because he knows me the best: what do you think my ego is? My brother just finished explaining what his definition of ego was. He said that an ego is what you project out to the world, but it’s not necessarily the reality you’re living. At first, OJ was reticent to answering the question…he was trying to vibe out. But after that, he said, “You portray an aura of being confident when in reality you are your harshest critic.” God must have blessed his tongue because this is something I realized about myself, I just didn’t know that someone else could see it, too. So what happens now? I live unapologetically. I have to figure out why I critique myself the way I do. Am I fair to myself? Am I practicing what I preach? Am I doing this for the show? Something to consider.

This post is almost 1000 words long, so I won’t bore you but just know part two is coming lol. It always does! But I won’t leave without sharing some good news! Before the new year takes off, I want to introduce three new parts coming to the blog:

  • #BostonProper – This is when I will dish on all things Boston. Boston influencer events, eats, events, brunches, staycations, gyms, spa, hair, YOU NAME IT! This is my city! I work, live, eat, breathe and sleep all things Boston (and Haiti). I can’t wait for you to experience Boston through my lens! After my feature on Chronicle 5, I’ve been invited to so many Boston based storefronts, events, spas etc! I have to share my city with you!
  • Dear Diary: While I speak my thoughts on my posts all the time, I think it’s time I keep those feelings in one space for you all to take a look at. Before blogging, I was a writer. I could write about anything and anyone. I’m hoping that this diary section of the blog will help you see me in a light that is more TRUE to my nature. I am working on Chardline the Blogger and Chardline, the Woman, being one. I can’t wait to hear your feedback on me…being me :).
  • Monthly Lookbook– Once a month, I am hoping to collaborate with one brand to show you themed looks for the month. Before the end of this month, you will see a lookbook from Debs Shops! Today’s look was gifted by Debs Shops so make sure you get it while it’s still here.

A huge thank you to Debs Shop for the look, and an even huger thank you to Distorted Concepts for the shots! He’s EFFIN AMAZING!

 

Breast Cancer Awareness with Catherines’ Plus Size

In Fitness & Health, Inspiration

Since the inception of the blog, I would end October with a breast cancer awareness post. When I was 16 years old, I lost one of my aunts to breast cancer. The following year, I lost a close mentor to breast cancer. For as long as I could remember, my life has been surrounded by victors and angels who’ve battled breast cancer. And for my family, it especially hits close to home. Instead of educating each other about the BRCA gene, we avoided the subject altogether. With each person we have lost due to breast cancer, we grew more silent and, at times, isolated from each other. This is why every year I am committed to writing a post about breast cancer awareness! Today, I wanted to shed light on a brand that is dedicated to breast cancer awareness and finding a cure!

Catherines’ Plus Size, a clothing brand that caters to women sizes 16W-34W and 0X-5X, has partnered with the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. Throughout the entire month of October, Catherines will offer a limited-edition eight-piece BCRF capsule collection including activewear, sleepwear, fashion styles and a pink ribbon pin. 10% of all proceeds from this collection will be donated to BCRF. Along with the capsule collection, customers can contribute to the BCRF with our “register round-up” campaign. Customers making in-store purchases can be rounded up to the nearest dollar or amount of their choice, with the difference going to BCRF. Catherines is also introducing a coupon book, valid during the month of November, in return for a $5 donation.

And while my friends and family could not making it to a breast cancer walk due to familial hospitalizations, we still find ways to give back! I wanted to partner with my aunt who is a survivor of breast cancer, but life often has a way telling us to heal first. Even though we only have a few more days left in October, Breast Cancer Research Foundation and Catherines’ Plus Size work every day to give back to and look for the cure for breast cancer!

Check out their options; I am wearing the Breast Cancer Awareness Ribbon Tee!

 

Love you all,
Char.

Tom’s of Maine Long Lasting Natural Deodorant Helped Me with Dermatitis

In Beauty, Fitness & Health

Thank you Tom’s of Maine for sponsoring this post.


As women, our bodies are always changing. Earlier this year, I had major hormone shifts that caused my body to react negatively to my everyday hygiene products. Soaps that I’ve been using for decades instantly caused my skin to break out in hives. Even body moisturizer caused my skin to dry out. But nothing was worse than developing dermatitis from using aluminum-based antiperspirant deodorants. In short, Dermatitis is when your skin becomes irritated by certain allergens. In my case, my aluminum-based antiperspirant deodorants caused a rash like condition under my arms. This would cause my arms to scratch and burn throughout the day. Actually, it got so bad that water would start to hurt. Enter: Tom’s of Maine’s Long Lasting Deodorant – a natural deodorant option with no aluminum or petrochemicals.

Deodorant is the most crucial part of a work woman’s day. I begin my day at 5 am by heading to the gym, then head to my 9-5, and then finish off with grad classes or blog work until 11 pm. With all the hustle and bustle of the day, your deodorant should be the number one reason why you feel and smell fresh. When my dermatologist recommended Tom’s of Maine Deodorant to me, I was skeptical. But when my doctor mentioned Tom’s of Maine uses natural fragrances, as opposed to synthetic,  I questioned whether it would last throughout the day. Nonetheless, I was desperate, and I knew I couldn’t keep using the antiperspirant I had home. After two days of usage, the redness and swelling under my arms started to go down. Ever since then, it’s been a match made in heaven. because I’ve had such a great experience with Tom’s of Maine after my dermatologist recommended it, I was delighted to partner with Tom’s of Maine to learn more about their Long Lasting Natural Deodorant. 

 

So why make the switch? The naturally derived ingredients in Tom’s of Maine Long Lasting Natural Deodorant not only keep you feeling fresh throughout the day, but you can avoid artificial preservatives and other unwanted ingredients from being continually massaged into your pores.  It’s unfortunate that we are exposed to all types of pollution in the air and our food, so why put them on your body?

And as someone who considers herself an athlete, I constantly have a fear of my deodorant not being strong enough. Tom’s of Maine Long Lasting Natural Deodorant is a long lasting deodorant that works just as hard as you do. Interested in learning more about my new favorite deodorant on the block? Head to Tom’s of Maine to see if it’s a fit for you! Always consult your doctor when making a change to your hygienic routine.

Til next time,

Char.

I was selected for this opportunity as a member of CLEVER and the content and opinions expressed here are all my own.

 

 

International Day of the Girl Child

In Body Positive, Inspiration, Lifestyle

According to Unicef,  since 2012, 11 October has been marked as the International Day of the Girl. The day aims to highlight and address the needs and challenges girls face, while promoting girls’ empowerment and the fulfillment of their human rights.

I am not one to cast a shadow on challenges of others…if you believe you are going through a problem, you, my friend are going through it. When people would say “I wish I were rich, I wouldn’t be going through this problem,” I often argue that wealthy people have a whole other set of issues that money can’t resolve. Unfortunately, as women in a 90% patriarchal world, we collectively go through a lot of the same issues.

Unequal pay, telling women they are playing “victim” when they go through rape, national leaders telling us what to do with our sexual organs (even condoning mutilation), fat shaming, barring access to education and driving, and the list goes on an on. And as much as I wish we were living through lines of Tupac’s “Dear Mama” song, we’re not.

I don’t advocate to be a feminist, but I do advocate for our human rights! I believe that we deserve to treat each other with the utmost understanding and respect. And even if it’s too late to do it now, we gotta start with youth…we shouldn’t have to condition young girls and women into believing that this is all society has to offer them. At the bare minimum, OUR HUMAN RIGHTS!

Adolescent girls have the right to a safe, educated, and healthy life, not only during these critical formative years, but also as they mature into women. If efficiently supported during the adolescent years, girls have the potential to change the world – both as the empowered girls of today and as tomorrow’s workers, mothers, entrepreneurs, mentors, household heads, and political leaders. An investment in realizing the power of adolescent girls upholds their rights today and promises a more equitable and prosperous future, one in which half of humanity is an equal partner in solving the problems of climate change, political conflict, economic growth, disease prevention, and global sustainability. – Unicef.

So please, if you see a little girl today–even if it’s for three seconds, let them know they are appreciated and that they can put anything they set their mind to! When I was younger, images of women running shit were far and few. I wish I could have told myself that the buck doesn’t stop with what “they” tell you to do…keep pushing sis.

Char.