The title sounds straight to the point huh? And YES/NO this may or may not be one of those “complainey” posts but oh well.
4 months ago, me and the ladies planned a trip to Jamaica for Anita’s birthday. We were given a list of excursions to choose from and even opted for a couple of spa treatments. We were convinced that we were going be in paradise! Now aside from the fact that all of us were sick, we were physically in paradise. The sun was shining, the water beautiful and the food was divine. No one could take away our initial feelings when we arrived in Jamaica.
Then day two came around and we were scheduling out the excursions. Originally we booked Horseback riding, ATV, Dolphin Swim, Jungle River Tubing and Sunset Tour. When we arrived, the representative took one look at me and said, “By the way, there’s a weight limit for some of these excursions.” Now, I know it’s her job to enforce the rules, so I didn’t take any offense to it. The weight limits were as follows:
It was this moment where I realized that being 320llbs was more than a hindrance for clothing choice. Today, I saw that 4 of the activities we booked were not made for people my size. Of course, upon receiving the information, I kept the poker face. I said, oh well— let’s just see what we can do. My friends, well under 250 lbs, all made the cut. But, they still stood by me in not booking the excursions. We continued with the trip as scheduled and ended an almost perfect vacation.
From this trip, I realized that I loved to travel. I loved exploring a new culture and I loved the sun. I loved doing outdoorsy things and even walking far distances. But as I was researching other places to go, I noticed that I am too big to participate in resort activities. Skydiving, zip lining, sky lift, Bamboo River Rafting, and more. Now that I’ve contracted the wanderlust bug, does that mean I am forced to only stick to things within my weight range? Do I have to do extensive research on places that don’t have weight restrictions? I remember polling my friends on Facebook to ask if I would be turned away. An overwhelming majority said I wouldn’t. Boy were they wrong.
So I’ve decided to take some time and mull over this experience. I really want to do and see more. For my birthday, I was planning a trip to the Maldives until I realized that jetskis were involved…, weight wins again!
Go figures! So I think I am 99% sure about what my next steps are gonna be. Tune in next week as I share them. Til then, enjoy my flicks from the trip :).
Beach Cover Up: Amazon
Faux Locs: Amazon
Sandals (super comfortable for travel) : Amazon
It’s one thing to find clothing and shoes that fully accommodate your size, but to find a mattress that is PERFECT for the fuller figure; that’s a unicorn. Ladies and Gentlemen, I’d like to introduce the Big Fig Mattress. When the team over at Big Fig reached out to me about conducting a review on the Big Fig mattress, it couldn’t have come at a better time.
Sleep is one of the most underrated forms of healing. In my post entitled, Chardline Gets Ready for Grad School I talked about how busy my life is. I work a full-time career as a Fair Housing Investigator, I take night courses twice a week, I am the only person operating this blog, familial obligations never seem to stop, I go to the gym three times a week, and I spend many nights on long bus rides to New York and back.
Can you imagine what the physical toll this has taken on my body? As a plus size woman with lots of junk in the trunk, I often have pains that radiate from my lower back. Upon seeing a physical therapist, she asked me about my physical activity. I mentioned everything I stated above, and she told me how common this was for people my size. She talked about how being bottom heavy tends to add a strain to the back. It’s like a constant pulling down. After a two mile jog, the first place I would begin to feel discomfort is my back. And to make matters worse, this pain worsens as soon as I hit the bed! My back would often sink into the bed, and the lack of support would exacerbate the pain.
After 3 and half months with Big Fig, it takes me less than 5 minutes to fall asleep peacefully. While my physical therapist gave me great suggestions to help build up the strength in my back, it did not help with my painful sleepless nights. But the support of the Big Fig mattress is like no other. My back is fully supported, that means no lower back sinking. The firm yet comfortable support feels like an illusion. I didn’t realize it was possible to achieve both. Even after three months of my mother, my nephew, and I sleeping on the bed, there isn’t any wear on the bed!
In the past, I thought if I purchased a larger bed (meaning upgrading from a Full to King), I wouldn’t rectify the issue. Unfortunately, that just provided a bigger bed, not a supportive one. Also, I tried getting beds that were foam-based. But again, although I felt like I was sleeping on a cloud, the middle of my back would continue to hurt and sink.
*High Density Foam -The Big Fig Mattress is constructed with 3 inches of high-density foam cushioning, with a minimum density of 1.8 pcf (pounds per cubic foot). That’s over 50% denser than the foam in a standard innerspring mattress.
*Hybrid Construction– The Big Fig’s hybrid construction of springs and foam provides the ultimate mix of support and comfort. Individually wrapped coils support the layers of foam to maintain their shape and resilience over time.
*Innerspring System- With 50% more coils than the average premium innerspring mattress on the market, our 1600 count innerspring system actively pushes back against body weight, and provides underlying support.
*Firmer Edge Foam To Keep You Happily In Place– The Big Fig Mattress is designed with the firmest foam around the edges to keep you feeling secure in bed, even close to the edge. Supportive edges also expand the usable sleeping area, making your mattress feel more spacious.
*Tested To Last 20 Years With Published Results –
the average lifespan of a traditional mattress is frustratingly short – especially for plus size sleepers. We sent the Big Fig Mattress to an independent testing facility to prove its durability and longevity. We used a heavier weight than normal (350lbs to be exact) to simulate 20 years of use, and the Big Fig passed with flying colors.
…and much much more.
My Big Fig has not only become my beacon of rest, but I often do my homework there too. Before the big figure, I honestly couldn’t wait to start my day because I would do anything to escape my sinking back pains. But now, you might as well send in the jaws of life because I’m not getting off this bed. Also, my mother loves the bed as well! She usually receives cortisone injections for her back issues, but while I was on vacation, she stayed in my room for three weeks. Since then, little by little her back has been showing signs of improvement and less dependency on her muscle relaxers. Her birthday is coming up in March, so I can’t wait to redeem code: FEBFIG to receive $200.00 off my purchase for her.
A good night’s sleep is truly an investment in your health. With all the hustle and bustle of my life, I needed to prioritize health outcomes. And with Big Fig’s 20-year warranty, HOW CAN YOU LOSE!! Also, please invest in the bed frame because my last bed frame collapsed on me and I was sleeping on a box spring for some time. So this 315lb girl is satisfied. Her mom is going to be satisfied, and I know you will be too!
A king size Big Fig mattress was provided to me, but my opinions are 1000% my own!
Tomorrow is the holiday that I’ve grown to have a love/hate relationship with. While taking a stroll down memory lane, I could only remember ONE VALENTINE’S DAY worth recanting…and that was in 2011. Today’s post is all about my Galentine’s Day with my squad. We are taking plus size fashion to a new level ha!
I’ve always wanted to do a collaboration with my homegirls. A chance for us to look pretty and take pictures doesn’t come often. But when it does, we can only slay featuring the best! Enter: Christian O’meshun. Christian Omeshun was created for the sophisticated curvy woman who values modern fashion! If there is ever a brand that speaks to empowering women through entrepreneurship and style, they still don’t compare to Christian O’meshun.
Founded by fashion designer A’Shontay Hubbard, Christian O’meshun designs custom clothing for sizes 12-32! When I introduced this brand to my squad, they asked me, “What makes this brand so unique?” Aside from the perfect fit and the breathable fabric, the designer, A’shontay, embodies all things L-O-V-E.
Her drive for her brand is a love of passion. Her dedication to making clothing that goes up to a size 32 (especially with most brands catering to a size 22) is well founded with each customer photo she reposts. And time and time again, we are always asking for body diversity! Well if you go to her website, the models range from size 14-22+. Also, there is a type of clothing for everyone on her website. I am a modern day career woman. I love slacks and button ups, but occasionally, I like to test the waters with a little something form-fitting in the board room. The love that I have for my curves and the love that I have for my job are all summed up in this one look.
When talking to my girls about which pieces they were getting, I saw that there was a moment of empowerment happening. We each started to point out our strong points, For instance, Stavana loves form-fitting clothing, and we knew she could kill any bodycon.We all told her she would look amazing in the Cold Shoulder Set. Or that Bianca has a perfect chest…no for real; she can fill in any dress– so we knew she could kill the Iris Set.
With each affirmation, we saw how we empowered each other to look and feel our sexiest! Without doing too much, our Galentine’s Day was a success! We don’t need someone to call ‘bae’ for us to realize that we are loved–many times it’s just being around your friends that get us there. So a huge shout out to my squad! We roll deeper, curvy, and great!
Fur Stole: Amazon
A huge thank you to Christian O’meshun for gifting us these fabulous outfits for this post! Sizes 14-24 are represented in these photos. Make sure you visit Bianca, Veronica, and Stavana’s website’s to see their looks!
Also, another huge thank you to Tricevault for curated the jewelry for outfits! After all, a girl can’t have too many chokers!
Lastly, thank you to Brad Bahner for standing out in the cold and making sure we got our shots!
For all our readers, Christian O’meshun is offering 20% off of your purchase if you use code SQUADGOALS at checkout!
Happy Valentine’s/Galentine’s Day everyone!
“Smile, you are taking a picture.” No. Last time I checked I was working out.
There was a period in my life where I did not want to workout in front of people. For some reason, when I look at fit gurus, I can never see myself in them. I always see a person who is thin and has epic facial features. But when I looked at myself, I saw a woman with lots of love handles and a double chin that wouldn’t cease movement even after I stopped moving. In the past, when I was asked to promote workout clothes but I always kept it pretty! Maybe 50% of the poses I did were meant to flatter my figure and give the illusion of working out like a boss! Why did I do that?
-insert Mr. Rogers storytime music here-
When I first started taking Zumba classes in 2010, I usually came too late to get a spot in the front of the mirror. Then one day, I got one! I was so excited to see myself go hard in all of my the glory. As we started to move, I found myself so disgusted with what I saw. I was well coordinated and even had all the moves down pack, but when I started to compare myself to the woman next to me, I couldn’t look at myself.
I saw that all three of my rolls were apparent in every waist move I did. I saw that my fupa would occasionally slip out of my leggings and assumed others saw it as well. I was so shocked that I never went back to the mirror and always danced to the furthest left of the class.
Then one day, the Zumba teacher asked if we wouldn’t mind being recorded . Absent-mind I said, “Sure, I love this song.” After she uploaded it on Youtube, my fears INSTANTLY went away. I WAS KILLING IT! I WAS KILLING IT HARDER THAN SOME OF THE SMALLER WOMEN TOO! At that moment, I saw that not only was I killing it, but I also wasn’t afraid to see my rolls and fupa fall out. Since then, all the workouts I do have been for myself–not caring for a single person watching or comparing myself to the person next to me.
So what does a fat girl look like when she’s working out? FUCKING FABOULOUS…just as anyone else who exercises their right to get their workout on!
Water Bottle: Amazon
Yoga Mat: Amazon
Huge thank you to Brad Bahner for the flicks! You can find his work here: http://www.bradbahner.com/
Til next time,