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In Body Positive, Fashion, Inspiration, Personal Style, Uncategorized

 

Initially, I wanted to entitle this post: 29 things I learned last year. But to be honest, it wasn’t in my heart. This past weekend, I had the privilege of spending my birthday with my closest friends and family. I don’t think ANYONE knows me better than this bunch of people. Well, except my mom.

My brother and sister know me the best. For the most part, they see me through and through. They peep my evolution from time to time, but at my core, they know what I am thinking.

Nyviana is like my sister…she’s is my sister. I met her through my friend Tremana, and I don’t regret it not one bit. We travel together, cry together, and everything in between. When I say something “CRAZY,” she gets me more than anyone…she actually laughs and gives me an HI 5. There’s something so comforting about those hi-5’s. We come from two different walks of life, but when our paths crossed, it was like we knew each other forever.

Durand I’ve known the longest in this crew. We met each other during our freshman year of college. At first, he was timid, but I knew there was more to Durand to that. He is VERY observant, tactical, and practical. He makes the best predictions about. In fact, CHARDLINE.COM wouldn’t exist without him. Durand saw something in me, purchased the domain and website, and I ran with it. I honor our friendship like it’s my baby. I think I should listen to him more; he seems to know what’s up!

Tasha, I met less than four years ago. She’s a rock. She super fierce, confident, always down for the cause, her smile is infectious, and she’s HELLA smart!! Like MAAAAD SMART! She’s one of the most driven women I know and doesn’t take no for an answer! I love her to death because she isn’t one of those friends who require all the attention in the world…she just needs a person to be present at the moment! This weekend was a weekend of firsts for her!!

Lastly, OJ. If you follow my Instagram Stories of Snapchat, OJ is my best friend. I’ve known him since 2012, and he started off as my trainer. Over the years, we’ve bonded…mostly over food…I think we eat more than we speak. And recently, we’ve started traveling together. So far we’ve been to Philly, NY, LA, Toronto, and ATL together. I always feel like there’s more to us than food, but food is always a good start when it comes to OJ. Fun fact, he’s the only man that has said “I LOVE YOU” to me and I actually believe it. It only took 29 years, huh?

During this trip, I don’t know if they noticed, but I did ask a few questions to them. I posed the questions at random times so it wouldn’t sound too interrogatory. I am not sure if they actually read my blog, but if you ever do, I want to say thank you because you revealed some things about myself that I’m always afraid to explore. Character traits that I often ignore.

The first question I asked, “What was your fondest childhood memory?” While my friends said things like staying at my grandmother’s house or riding a bike, I remember not having many childhood memories. I remember my sister drowning in the pool at Canobie Lake; I remember having a cousin that didn’t act like a cousin…sorta creepy….I remember being called a whale while I was sleeping…and then variations of “fat” thereon. My positive memories seemed to have diminished and I all I could remember were times where I was hurt or scared.  But my friend’s memories taught me that it wasn’t too late to make new and fun ones now. The past already happened and I can’t control that. But this past weekend, I made some great memories. I only want to keep making them from here on out.

The second question I asked…OJ in particular because he knows me the best: what do you think my ego is? My brother just finished explaining what his definition of ego was. He said that an ego is what you project out to the world, but it’s not necessarily the reality you’re living. At first, OJ was reticent to answering the question…he was trying to vibe out. But after that, he said, “You portray an aura of being confident when in reality you are your harshest critic.” God must have blessed his tongue because this is something I realized about myself, I just didn’t know that someone else could see it, too. So what happens now? I live unapologetically. I have to figure out why I critique myself the way I do. Am I fair to myself? Am I practicing what I preach? Am I doing this for the show? Something to consider.

This post is almost 1000 words long, so I won’t bore you but just know part two is coming lol. It always does! But I won’t leave without sharing some good news! Before the new year takes off, I want to introduce three new parts coming to the blog:

  • #BostonProper – This is when I will dish on all things Boston. Boston influencer events, eats, events, brunches, staycations, gyms, spa, hair, YOU NAME IT! This is my city! I work, live, eat, breathe and sleep all things Boston (and Haiti). I can’t wait for you to experience Boston through my lens! After my feature on Chronicle 5, I’ve been invited to so many Boston based storefronts, events, spas etc! I have to share my city with you!
  • Dear Diary: While I speak my thoughts on my posts all the time, I think it’s time I keep those feelings in one space for you all to take a look at. Before blogging, I was a writer. I could write about anything and anyone. I’m hoping that this diary section of the blog will help you see me in a light that is more TRUE to my nature. I am working on Chardline the Blogger and Chardline, the Woman, being one. I can’t wait to hear your feedback on me…being me :).
  • Monthly Lookbook– Once a month, I am hoping to collaborate with one brand to show you themed looks for the month. Before the end of this month, you will see a lookbook from Debs Shops! Today’s look was gifted by Debs Shops so make sure you get it while it’s still here.

A huge thank you to Debs Shop for the look, and an even huger thank you to Distorted Concepts for the shots! He’s EFFIN AMAZING!

 

Breast Cancer Awareness with Catherines’ Plus Size

In Fitness & Health, Inspiration

Since the inception of the blog, I would end October with a breast cancer awareness post. When I was 16 years old, I lost one of my aunts to breast cancer. The following year, I lost a close mentor to breast cancer. For as long as I could remember, my life has been surrounded by victors and angels who’ve battled breast cancer. And for my family, it especially hits close to home. Instead of educating each other about the BRCA gene, we avoided the subject altogether. With each person we have lost due to breast cancer, we grew more silent and, at times, isolated from each other. This is why every year I am committed to writing a post about breast cancer awareness! Today, I wanted to shed light on a brand that is dedicated to breast cancer awareness and finding a cure!

Catherines’ Plus Size, a clothing brand that caters to women sizes 16W-34W and 0X-5X, has partnered with the Breast Cancer Research Foundation. Throughout the entire month of October, Catherines will offer a limited-edition eight-piece BCRF capsule collection including activewear, sleepwear, fashion styles and a pink ribbon pin. 10% of all proceeds from this collection will be donated to BCRF. Along with the capsule collection, customers can contribute to the BCRF with our “register round-up” campaign. Customers making in-store purchases can be rounded up to the nearest dollar or amount of their choice, with the difference going to BCRF. Catherines is also introducing a coupon book, valid during the month of November, in return for a $5 donation.

And while my friends and family could not making it to a breast cancer walk due to familial hospitalizations, we still find ways to give back! I wanted to partner with my aunt who is a survivor of breast cancer, but life often has a way telling us to heal first. Even though we only have a few more days left in October, Breast Cancer Research Foundation and Catherines’ Plus Size work every day to give back to and look for the cure for breast cancer!

Check out their options; I am wearing the Breast Cancer Awareness Ribbon Tee!

 

Love you all,
Char.

International Day of the Girl Child

In Body Positive, Inspiration, Lifestyle

According to Unicef,  since 2012, 11 October has been marked as the International Day of the Girl. The day aims to highlight and address the needs and challenges girls face, while promoting girls’ empowerment and the fulfillment of their human rights.

I am not one to cast a shadow on challenges of others…if you believe you are going through a problem, you, my friend are going through it. When people would say “I wish I were rich, I wouldn’t be going through this problem,” I often argue that wealthy people have a whole other set of issues that money can’t resolve. Unfortunately, as women in a 90% patriarchal world, we collectively go through a lot of the same issues.

Unequal pay, telling women they are playing “victim” when they go through rape, national leaders telling us what to do with our sexual organs (even condoning mutilation), fat shaming, barring access to education and driving, and the list goes on an on. And as much as I wish we were living through lines of Tupac’s “Dear Mama” song, we’re not.

I don’t advocate to be a feminist, but I do advocate for our human rights! I believe that we deserve to treat each other with the utmost understanding and respect. And even if it’s too late to do it now, we gotta start with youth…we shouldn’t have to condition young girls and women into believing that this is all society has to offer them. At the bare minimum, OUR HUMAN RIGHTS!

Adolescent girls have the right to a safe, educated, and healthy life, not only during these critical formative years, but also as they mature into women. If efficiently supported during the adolescent years, girls have the potential to change the world – both as the empowered girls of today and as tomorrow’s workers, mothers, entrepreneurs, mentors, household heads, and political leaders. An investment in realizing the power of adolescent girls upholds their rights today and promises a more equitable and prosperous future, one in which half of humanity is an equal partner in solving the problems of climate change, political conflict, economic growth, disease prevention, and global sustainability. – Unicef.

So please, if you see a little girl today–even if it’s for three seconds, let them know they are appreciated and that they can put anything they set their mind to! When I was younger, images of women running shit were far and few. I wish I could have told myself that the buck doesn’t stop with what “they” tell you to do…keep pushing sis.

Char.

 

Never go Eric Benet

In Fashion, Inspiration, Personal Style, Plus Size Fashion

“You almost went Eric Benét/Let the baddest girl in the world get away/I don’t even know what else to say/N*gga, never go Eric Benet”


In the spirit of a wedding that I am attending over the weekend, I thought I would put out a reminder to my future King and what not! Remember ladies, you are the prize! But for now, I am effin’ feeling myself! So here’s a short post to memorialize the way I was feeling on 7/27/2017! Oh yea, and happy birthday to my sister Katherine!!

For outfit details? Make sure you shop below :).

Dear Kurvy Katie

In Fashion, Inspiration, Lifestyle, Personal Style

Today’s post is short and sweet!


I want to dedicate the best blogger friend that I have: Kurvy Katie.

Y’all may know her as “the girl who has all the promo codes and gets things for the low-low,” but to me, she is so much more. We can talk about EVERYTHING and not feel a hint of judgment. In the blogging world, it’s so hard to know someone’s true intentions because it can be catty! Now don’t get me wrong, I have other friends that I vibe with and trust, but making friendships within any industry is tough.

To that end, I wanted to send my Katie a love letter cuz she’s the bee’s knees!

Dear Slim (cuz she loves hip hop and MIGHT like Eminem lol),
Thanks for being that friend that is down to turn up and turn down. Always providing me with direction, advice (like cut that dude off or “let me text him for you and tell him you like him lol”) and the truth! It’s easy to find people who will smile in your face but talk craziness behind your back! Ya mad dope son. From serving overseas to continuing to serve the community of armed forces back home, you truly are a gem!

Two weeks ago, I was going to spend 1500 in accommodations for training in DC…but you intercepted with the quickness and looked out for your homegirl! Thanks for looking out! Letting me lounge around and even kick it with you and Kiki (oooh—tell her she should start a Youtube called “Kickin’ It with Kiki).

Aside from letting me crash, when Boston Curvy Fashion Week just started, for two weeks in a row you came out and supported! That was deep, dude!

In a few short days, we are taking our first international trip together, and I can’t EFFIN wait! I couldn’t think of a better roommate and travel mate! So here’s to great vibes, Mexican guys, and Mai Tai’s! Love you
Char!

Chardline Outfit Details

Denim Dress (40% off using code SHOPJUNE): Eloquii 

Gingham Heels: Sold out, from Shoe Dazzle

Katie’s Outfit

Striped Dress (on sale for 25.00 now!) : Target

Chuck Taylor Sneakers: Macy’s