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June 2015

The Return of “ShaSha Fierce”

In Personal Style

Happy Friday Everyone!

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As you can see, I’ve been slowly been getting back to the blogging game. HIP HIP HOORAY! in the beginning, I stated that I want to be transparent with you all because hearing my story can better help influence your’s. Honestly, this post was going to be about three pages long filled with the woes of Chard but I decided to take a different approach.

One of my good friends also happens to be an amazing designer and I couldn’t think of better way to honor her amazingness, but I sure will try.

Throughout the months of September 2014-January 2015, I living a pretty toxic life. My new birth control started to mess with my emotions/weight (or at least the doctor told me it did), I was in a toxic “situationship” (which only lead to feelings of despair and self hate), and I never felt more alone in my life.

Many of my friends couldn’t really tell because they said things like “How are you and the new boo?” “Hey boo, I see you at the club, wasn’t that fun?” Or my most heart wrenching “You inspired me to pursue x, y, and z. Your life seems perfect and you’re always smiling!” I said this was the most heart wrenching because I felt forced to keep up with an image that didn’t truly reflect how I felt on the inside.

During this time period, I lost a “friend”, I gained 45 lbs from my last weigh in, I stopped going to the gym on a consistent basis, I let someone else tell me the laundry list of “things wrong with me” and tried to fix them, and I developed a self hate for myself that took nearly 9 years eradicate. I won’t go into the specifics but what really helped me get through a lot of this was God. God is my Guy! He’s always be my GUY but sometimes you are so blindsided by “false gods” that you don’t realize that God has been there to begin with.

I was so uncomfortable with my weight gain during this time because I couldn’t find anything that fit and I realized that a lot of my physical capabilities were diminishing. I didn’t really hate they way I looked, I hated the aftermath of my 45lb weight gain. I spent a good three years trying to lose 100lbs. I once gained 365, and for me to shoot back up to 305 (coming from my lowest of 247), it’s disheartening. A lot of the “constructive criticism” I was receiving caused me to hate myself and hate how I viewed myself as well. Today, if you follow my Instagram you’ll notice I stopped posting about my weight gain. I didn’t want this health journey to be a spectacle anymore. I just want to work on myself at my own pace…at my own time…loving every pound that comes on and off.

One random day, I decided to connect with my Izzy of  the thicky chicky. We shared so many memories and what was going on in our lives, but I really garnered so much from that conversation that it truly informed my next steps. So the best way to honor my friend who basically saved life (she doesn’t know it yet lol) is to highlight some quotes and ideas from our conversations while wearing some pieces from her online boutique!!! So Izzy, here’s to you!

Side note: It took a lot for me to post these pictures at first because it truly highlights my weight gain but I’ve finally learned to accept that my weight gain isn’t anything other than a reflection of my physique…it’s not definitive of my growth since my downfall nor who I am today. I am still FLY ASS FXXK! #BackRollsAndAll #UnbortheredBellyAndAll

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I'm not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”

“The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.”

From our conversation, I realized that no matter how many outside factors tell you about yourself, only CHARDLINE can tell you about yourself. Yes, a lot of this is easier said than done but the road to honoring that fact is so rewarding. Thanks Izzy!

“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”

“When a woman becomes her own best friend life is easier.”

I was placing so much of my happiness and strength in one person, that I forgot how to stand up on my own two feet. Life is always going to happen, don’t let that excuse define you. No many how much rocks are being thrown your way…dodge them shits!

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

“There is nothing more rare, nor more beautiful, than a woman being unapologetically herself; comfortable in her perfect imperfection. To me, that is the true essence of beauty.”

I can’t believe I almost allowed someone to tell me “my hair is ugly” (but he wouldn’t pay for it), tell me I was lazy (…I will keep that rebuttal to myself lol), and harm me. Being IMPERFECTLY ME is what I am DOPE at doing. To allow someone else into my life and dictate those opinions should’ve been the last of my concern. Today, I am more than welcoming of all negativity…it honestly can’t hurt me anymore. Chardline knows who she is.

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Life gets easy when you remove people who make it difficult.

The “Bxxch look on my face says it all. Being firm with and real with myself was one of the best decisions I’ve made!

Lastly,

God will not permit any troubles to come upon us, unless He has a specific plan by which great blessing can come out of the difficulty.

I’ve never been the one to say “The devil is working overtime” because I don’t want to give any other entity that power except for God. I choose to look in the light instead of acknowledging my demons. God won’t give me anything I can’t handle and I’ve learned so much from this process that I couldn’t be more thankful!

Thanks for reading everyone! Til next week,

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Toodles!

 

Major shout out to Tizzy for the pictures!! I really hope you guys are checking her out!

Naughty in my Nautical

In Personal Style

Happy Hump Day!

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Now that I am finally coming down from my #GoldenConfidence Pool Party high, I thought it would be great to switch gears to some personal style posts. Last week I left off with a post featuring Dia & Co’s styling service. Today, I want to show the 2nd garment I styled from my Dia & Co Spring Box! I am sucker for mixing prints…but I am truly a minimalist as heart when it comes to mixing them. When I saw this nautical top from my Spring Box, I couldn’t help but pair it up with some polka dots!

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I love this ensemble because it’s busy but simple. That’s pretty much how my head functions.

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In addition to my nautical top, I paired it a blazer that I received from my Winter Dia&Co Box! Talk about versatility! This is one of the more admirable aspects of Dia & Co, providing quality clothing that can be used more than one way. I am sure I blogged about this specific blazer about 3 times, but it’s still one of my sturdiest and color safe blazers I have.

My "naughty in nautical" face looks so funny!! I look like the mega creep!

My “naughty in nautical” face looks so funny!! I look like the mega creep!

Lastly, some electric blue pants and my most comfortable heel from Lane Bryant did the trick!!

I hope you enjoyed this post! I still have a few more items to style that look would great for the summer. Make sure you come back to see what I have in store for those pieces! Until next time,

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Toodles!!!

 

Special Shout out to ToKYO photography!! Check her out!!

 

How to Spell SLAY: Essie Golden’s #GoldenConfidence Pool Party

In Body Positive

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How many ways can you spell slay?  Well according to my experience at Essie Golden’s #GoldenConfidence Pool Party, there’s a “sold out amount of ways” you can spell SLAY!

This past Saturday, I took 6 women with me to Essie’s Pool Party and they had the time of their lives! Now originally I planned on going by myself but I realized that full-figured women in Boston, at times, get the short end of the stick when it comes to experiencing events with women who look just like us. My first time realizing this was when I went to Boston Fashion Week in 2011 and realized that everyone was below a size 10 and I sat tall at chubby at a size 20…I was still stunting on them though #Beleedat !

Anywho, with sponsorship from Rue 107, Monif C and Plus Model Magazine, Essie Golden pulled off one of the most successful pool parties for full-figured women to date! Wanna see some pictures ? ? ?

First off, I wanna start with my ensemble:

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Now onto some pics!

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Rue Girls Do It BEST!

Rue Girls Do It BEST!

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Check out Ms. Boss Lady!!! Gwen DeVoe and the crew!

Check out Ms. Boss Lady!!! Gwen DeVoe and the crew!

Shayla of Boston Curvy Fashion Week, Healthy Curves Ambassador.

Shayla of Boston Curvy Fashion Week, Healthy Curves Ambassador.

I missed her? Oh no!! Miss Posh looking amazing!!

I missed her? Oh no!! Miss Posh looking amazing!!

Kavah King of Heathen Kouture 1 of 8 men supporting the movement!

Kavah King of Heathen Kouture 1 of 8 men supporting the movement!

Hey Kelly!

Hey Kelly!

Monif C and the Crew!

Monif C and the Crew!

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Finally, a super huge shout out goes to Essie for doing her thang!!! Congrats and I can’t wait til the next one!!

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Until next time,

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Toodles!

Special shout out goes to Rick Jones of R Jones Photography for the amazing pictures!!!

Dia&Co: Spring Time Classic P. 1

In Personal Style

Happy Tuesday!

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I want to bring you another review of Dia&Co’s spring box. To refresh your memory, a few months ago I did a post on Dia&Co. In case you forgot, Dia&Co is a personal styling service that delivers a hand-picked selection of clothing predetermined by your preferences. For a recap on Dia&Co and how the styling service works, check out my last post here.

Now, onto the coolness! This Spring, Dia&Co sent me a box I loved so much that I will have to do it in TWO posts! That’s right two outfits, ONE WEEK! The first piece I decided to style was this flowwy long black skirt.

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If you look at any of my past posts, you’ll realize I am not the type to wear long flowwy clothing…UNTIL NOW :). I am so thankful to the people down at Dia&Co for actually opening my eyes to the possibilities of maxi skirts. I kinda want to live in mine!

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Now what’s a maxi skirt without some accessories? I am not the biggest “accessorizer” but I am trying to become one. I am trying to step out of my comfort zone and learn when to use lots of accessories and when too many accessories cause a distraction. But back to the skirt! The band around the waist is unique because it doesn’t crunch up but it isn’t tight either. Around my waist I measure 42″, so I’ve shied away from a lot of peplums and garments that are tight around the waist. My  body legit has 5 sizes depending where you measure me, so as of late I’ve been wearing more loose-fitting clothing. THAT’S GOING TO CHANGE!

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I believe that layered maxi skirts are an awesome alternative for women who aren’t comfortable wearing maxi dresses that are form-fitting.

Top: C/O Pink Clubwear Skirt: C/O Dia&Co Shoes: Charlotte Russe Hat: C/O Yours Clothing Belt: Archangel Boutique Bag: H&M Watch: Nine West

Top: C/O Pink Clubwear
Skirt: C/O Dia&Co
Shoes: Charlotte Russe
Hat: C/O Yours Clothing
Belt: Archangel Boutique
Bag: H&M
Watch: Nine West Glasses: Forever 21 Necklace: Forever 21

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I hope you get a chance to check out Dia&Co ‘s styling service. Come back later this week to check out the second outfit I am gonna style! Hint: Nautical meets Polka Dots!

Toodles!

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It takes a village: “A Cinderella Story”

In Body Positive

Happy Friday!!

I wanted to end this work week on a happy note. A little over a month ago, Désirée from the United Sister’s of Color reached out to me about a request that was truly heart wrenching. Here was the request:

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Reflecting over my prom experience, I remember a lot of my friends going to boutiques to get their prom dresses but they all went up to a size 12 at most. I did end up finding a prom dress (and prom date) a week before prom but I remember how crushed I was when I couldn’t find anything. Me and my mother ended up going to David’s Bridal and I saved up all my coins to get this dress!

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Cute right…lol. But this isn’t about me…EHEM!

So after reading that message, I organized an email among women in the plus industry that I’ve worked with in the past and some I hope to work with down the line! The response to support the cause was overwhelming! I loved it! I am starting to understand the phrase “It takes a village” because it took a lot of teamwork to make this dream work. Once Desiree set up the Go Fund Me account to help buy a dress, the donations came pouring in! Amazing bloggers like Bianca of Curvaceously Bee, Alexis of Kurvy Katie, and stylist Ty-Juana were among the amazing donors.

A few days later, Nanthale Collins responded back to the email and she saved the day. Nanthale is a well-known Fashion and Image Consultant from NYC and she was so kind to work with a few brands to provide the winning look for the day! In the end, we didn’t have to use the funds from the fundraiser, BUT Desiree has saved the funds for next year’s prom drive to ensure that every youth has a prom dress option, even if they are bought last minute. While Nanthale was hard at work organizing a few looks and reaching out several brands, a few brands followed up with my PSA and even agreed to donate from their own collections! A special thank you goes to BUXOM Modern Plus Boutique for donating a beautiful skater dress that was adorable!

When Nanthale finished putting all the final touches to operation “Get Baby Girl to Prom”, I reached out to an amazing friend and photographer Tokyo, who donated her time and services to make sure her every moment was captured on her big day! A huge thank you goes to Lane Bryant for donating accessories and undergarments that perfectly complimented the Sydney’s Closet winning dress!

I know I know…you are all waiting for her look, well follow along the picture trail to see how amazing her day came out to be!

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Looking back at these pictures definitely makes me tear up a bit. I would to thank everyone who responded back to my call in any way shape of form because her mother was overwhelmed with happiness.  Both of them were more than grateful and here’s another Cinderella story in the books!!

Have a great weekend all,

Toodles!