Happy Wednesday Y’all!
Did you miss me? I know I took a few days off (thank you to all my subscribers for all your well wishes), but I am feeling good now. I am feeling like I am walking with a new purpose in life.
Sounds super cliché but it is true. From school taking a toll on my mental and physical health to seeing my homeland–Haiti, end up in yet another natural disaster life could not be rockier. Recently, I had to take a few days off to myself. During my time off, I prayed, I looked at the direction in which my life was going, I mapped out where I wanted to be by December, and I relaxed. Through all of this, I finally feel like I am walking with a new purpose.
I did not plan the way I should have. You know, map out my meals, map out my rest, figure out when I would map out my blog posts and homework, etc. I just started winging it. Unfortunately, this did not work for me. I ended up in the ER, I got a C+ on my first paper, my weight shifts like a roller coaster, and I am ALWAYS tired! LIKE ALWAYS tired! Nonetheless, I got a second chance to do it right. A second chance for me to figure out what I was doing wrong the first time. Through all of this planning, soul-searching, and relaxing, I found peace. Now, I want to share that peace with you. Here are 5 Steps to Getting Back on Track once you’ve fallen.
1. Make Time To Process
I never took the time to process what my new life was going to look like. With school, work, blog, family, and travel all a major part of my life, I underestimated how much this would weigh down on me. This past weekend, I took a staycation (can’t wait to share the place with you) and it was everything. Away from family and friends. Away from distraction. Just me, myself, and my goals. I know we get so caught up in our lives but don’t neglect the clarity and time you have to make for yourself. Even if it is only 1 hour. Use that hour!
2. Listen to Your Body
I am the number one person who neglects all things Chardline. My body is sore, but I will make sure my mom gets help with cleaning. I may feel like completely drained, but for some reason, that is not enough to make me relax. As of late, my body has developed boils that feel like stab wounds. When I finally went to see the doctor, they told me my body is fighting an infection. The reason why I felt so tired was that my body was fighting an infection and I would over exert myself by using lots of energy.
3. Mental and Physical Health are IMPORTANT
I swear I am a glutton for punishment. Lately, I have gained and losing weight like nobody’s business. Some days I feel great, and other days I feel awful. I looking down at the scale is not discouraging. What discourages me is feeling different for the worst. When I feel myself having a hard time standing in heels that I used to do back flips in, it discourages me. However, the cherry on the top has to be that I am knowingly neglecting my health. I am still having a hard time understanding why my health takes a backseat when I need my body for the rest of my life. It makes me so frustrated. However, instead of wiping my tears away, I work at it every day. On Sundays, I will try to prep three meals for the week. On Mondays, I will make an effort to work with a trainer to make sure I show up to the session. Every day, I set the alarm to be asleep by 10:30 pm. Without my body, most of my life functions would not be possible.
4. Discipline Counts
Every day I have to teach myself to follow through these steps. I have to remind myself that I have to make time to process. I have to make sure that if something feels wrong with my body, don’t wait until it gets worse–figure it out! I create habits of being grateful to keep me on track. Realizing that I have the ability to walk–so take that ass on to the gym. I realize that I have a warm house to come home to and family and friends who love–don’t stress. Discipline yourself every day to achieve your goals because, in the end, you have to answer to yourself.
A big part of staying on track is the debriefing. Looking at what works, what still needs work, and what things you have to abandon. If your boyfriend continually adds stress to your life, ditch his ass. If you are going to sleep at 10:30 pm is not working for you, try 10:00 pm. If your family is too much in your space, let them know that you need this space to perform. However, always take the t debrief because if you do not, you will find yourself trying to make sense of the changes in your life.
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Until next time,